Ask Dr. Christina: How Do We Define Being a Woman?

QUESTION: I am 36 years old and I just found out I have breast cancer. I am 36 years old and I just found out I have breast cancer. I am devastated that I will lose my breast and I’m afraid that I will no longer be attractive to my husband. I am horrified of the scar that I will have and the thought that I will no longer be a woman but just a freak. These feelings are so bad already that I do not want him to see me naked or touch me. What have I done to deserve this? Why me?


Ask Dr. Christina: Empty Nester

QUESTION: I am writing to you because my daughter is leaving for college and I feel so lost. I can remember the first time when she went to kindergarten and how hard it was to let her go into that school for those eight hours. I could remember her crying and not wanting to leave me. It took all my strength to let her go. Can you please help me with some advice as to how to cope with this loss?


Ask Dr. Christina: Should I Go to College?

QUESITON: I am graduating from high school this year. I am going to college, but I was unable to get into a good college because my SAT scores were very low. My brother told me I was an idiot and my parents told me that I was just a girl and I shouldn’t go to college. an you give me some ideas about how I could still go to college even if nobody believes I can do it?


Ask Dr. Christina: Will I Ever Be Noticed?

QUESTION: I am writing this to you because I feel so bad about myself. I am in high school. I’ve been told that it is supposed to be the best time of your life, but I feel like I have no friends. I feel invisible. The question I want to ask is do you think that this is how my life will always be, and will someone ever notice me?


Ask Dr. Christina: I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye to my grandfather and I feel bad

Question: My grandfather died less than a year ago and the anniversary of his death is coming up. I cannot get over this loss. How does one get over the loss of their loved one when their loved one was their life? How does one start to believe that you are going to wake up from this nightmare? How does one come to realize that their loved one is never coming back? I feel so bad because I did not have a chance to say goodbye.


Ask Dr. Christina: Am I a Freak of Nature?

QUESTION: I am so ashamed and I feel like a freak of nature. I am starting high school soon, and my chest and breasts are not developed. My mom is supportive and has me doing breast exercises, but they’re not working. As a matter of fact, it seems to make it all worse. I just feel like such a freak and I wish I had never been born.


Ask Dr. Christina: My Integrity and Self-Worth Are Being Compromised by My Health Problems

QUESTION: I'm a 92-year old male who used to be worth something. I don’t feel like I have any more purpose in life. I no longer feel like a man. I know there is no answer; just the frustration of getting old, and death does not seem to be near. I was using my computer and I found your site. I decided to say to you that I am lost as to why I'm even here now in the hopes you could help me understand all of this.


Ask Dr. Christina: I Cut Myself Because My Mom Died (Teen)

QUESTION: I am 17 years old and I don't know how to say this. No one listens to me. I find it hard to express myself so I cut myself in areas that no one sees. I have been doing this more recently because my mom died and my dad travels a lot. I know you are going to tell me I’m crazy but I am afraid. Can you help me?