Dear Dr. Christina,
I really don’t know how to ask you this, but I am so ashamed and I feel like a freak of nature. I am starting high school soon, and my chest and breasts are not developed. I have an orange on one side of my chest and a pea on the other side. Usually when I go out, I wrap my chest with an ace bandage so that no one can see if I have any breasts. I am so ashamed when I take a bath, or for that matter when my mom wants me to put on a swimsuit. I usually give an excuse why I don’t want to go swimming so I don’t have to. My mom is supportive and has me doing breast exercises, but
they’re not working. As a matter of fact, it seems to make it all worse. She says I can wear a fake bra or stuff tissues down my bra. But how am I going to do that for the rest of my life or, for that matter, go out on a date? I just feel like such a freak and I wish I had never been born.
I am so proud of you for writing to me. I know that you must be feeling that life doesn’t seem fair. I would like you to know that what you’re dealing with is something that can be fixed.
In my practice I see this a lot and you’re not alone. Believe me. Many times, my patients come in to my office, and, like you, they are quite embarrassed. By the time they leave my office, they themselves believe and realize that this can be taken care of and that they are going to be as normal as, if not better than, anyone else.
Breast development occurs differently for every woman, and at different ages and gender. It is very individual. As a teenager, there are times when you have to sometimes wait until your female hormones are stabilized so that your breasts can be totally to your liking. The multitude of changes that occur in your hormones as you become a woman makes this process different for everyone. So as the saying goes, “Patience is a virtue.” Patience is one thing that I am going to ask you to learn. This whole process of correcting your breast may take some time; but believe me, you will be normal, and perhaps it will all turn out better than you think.
It is important that you select an OB/GYN doctor who you feel you freely can talk to and one who will have patience with you as well as be sensitive enough to meet your needs. A breast examination must be done in order to make sure that there is nothing wrong, and that your breast tissue is totally intact. An ultrasound of your breast may be done too, which is not painful so please do not worry. An ultrasound is a machine that uses a small rolling implement on the outside of your body, sort of like a small paint roller, along with some warm jelly that is put on your skin, that emits sound waves to take a picture so your doctor can look at your breast tissue inside. Some blood work will also be done to test the levels of your female and male hormones, since women actually have both of these types of hormones.
Once the lab work and ultrasound are done, another team member will be brought into the picture—a Breast Specialist that will help your doctor make a full plan of action to help you. Depending on the results of all the tests, you may find that you are going to be all right. As a matter of fact, you may most likely find that you are going to be beautiful and quite normal.
I hope that by you reaching out and emailing me, you have found out (1) you are not alone; (2) that you can be fixed; and (3) that there is nothing wrong with you and you are certainly not a freak of nature. Anyone that is experiencing what you are experiencing would have the same fear you do—that they are not normal; but now you know better.
I only ask that you again have patience. Don’t get frustrated, for this can’t be fixed in one day. It all depends on how old you are. Know that you are going to be all right and beautiful.
We doctors cannot explain sometimes why we have to go through all of this, but I consider all of us who do, like you, are very special women. You will appreciate the importance of patience, your body and your self-image as well as how you treat others who may have a flaw that cannot be fixed or those who may have a distorted view of how they see themselves.
I am so proud of you. I encourage you to ask your doctor questions and reach out to him or her or someone else in your doctor’s office if there is something you don’t understand. Just remember that you will have a team working for you that is dedicated to making you feel good about yourself. Love who you are, and know that it is the whole YOU that makes you beautiful.
Please keep me informed about how you are doing.
May this life journey keep you safe.
You will be in my thoughts,
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