Fathers come in all ages, shapes and sizes. It does not matter if you are a stepdad,an adoptive dad, uncle, brother, or just a man in a child’s life. This is your day to strut your stuff! You are the one who can make such a difference to a child just by showing your love for them.
I am reminded of a quote that was written anonymously which said, “Anyone can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad.” How true is that?
There are so many children out there that have no real father figures, yet they continue to seek out any men who show their interest and compassion.
A dad isn’t just a man who is physically present. A dad is a man who allows himself to be present and engages in his family’s lives. A great dad is one who expresses himself with kind words and who makes the time to spend quality time with his family and exchange ideas.
A child learns how to perceive the world through their experiences at home. A father provides that added security and safety. He is supposed to be the child’s protector. This is where the child is allowed to express themselves without disrespect or judgments. At home, it is not only about learning right from wrong, but how to express yourself. It is also about learning that rules need to be put in place in order to learn about establishing boundaries. It is through these communication exchanges that the child gets firsthand knowledge from adults for how to express their frustrations and victories. It is essential that the child feel that you are actually listening to them. This encourages them to share more. When a man encourages and praises his children, he helps to heighten their self-esteem and to have pride in themselves.
Having a father figure allows for the chance for the child to learn about how to express their love and how to receive love. They experience the idea of getting hugs, no matter if they are scared or if the child just needs the feeling of being wanted and that they matter. Showing our children what a healthy relationship is and about healthy emotional ties is important. Helping them understand how they should be treated and how we should treat others is imperative for them to realize that both physical and verbal abuse is something that should never be tolerated.
The importance of a dad being active in his child’s education and social events is critical, even though it may interfere with a sport event of his own. When a dad can actually play with his children, and not just watch TV, it can mean the world to them.
Allowing them to learn how to do household chores helps the children learn how to treat their future lifetime partners. Show them how to treat and respect their significant others by not arguing with or contradicting yours in front of your child, for it only confuses the child as to who is right or wrong.
Having patience and being open-minded are such assets to have as a dad, for you are there as your children’s safety net. As you allow them to make mistakes, you help them learn that the outside world can be cruel and that they may not always get what they want. The most important thing is that you are there for them to give them guidance.
If, by chance, you are divorced or separated, you must remember your children are not pawns to be played with. Be the role model of who you truly are by keeping in touch by phone, email, and consistent messaging. Do your best to avoid old disputes with your partner.
I wish I could tell you that there was a simple instruction manual out there on how to be a great dad, but there isn’t. There is no rule book and there is no play book for you to follow.
I would just like to say this: be yourself. Be sensitive, respectful, and happy. See this time, this very moment, as your opportunity to seize your love for all those people who surround you. Show your unconditional love, no matter what. This is the greatest quality of being a wonderful father.
So to all the fathers out there, I want to thank you for your love and who you truly are. I want to wish you a very “Happy Father’s Day!”
My thoughts are with you and with your families!
- Posted By: DRC Editor
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